Monday, December 31, 2012

J.D. Salinger's Birthday

It's the birthday of J.D. Salinger (books by this author), born Jerome David Salinger in New York City (1919). The notably reclusive author of The Catcher in the Rye (1951) died in 2010, at the age of 91, after 50 years spent avoiding the public eye as much as possible. But the public never lost interest in him, and in fact the press seemed to enjoy the challenge of trying to ferret out information about the author. Ian Hamilton approached him in 1984, asking permission to write his biography; Salinger turned him down, telling his would-be biographer that he had "borne all the exploitation and loss of privacy I can possibly bear in a single lifetime." But Hamilton went ahead and published an unauthorized version. Salinger sued him, and the case went all the way to the Supreme Court, and Salinger eventually won.

In 1998, a woman named Joyce Maynard published her memoir, At Home in the World. In it, she recounted her 10-month affair with Salinger. He had written her a fan letter when she was a college freshman, after he read an essay she'd published in The New York Times Magazine. After a summer of letters back and forth, Maynard dropped out of Yale and moved in with him; they lived together for almost a year, and in her account, he was eccentric and controlling. Three years later, Salinger's daughter, Margaret, also published her own memoir, Dreamcatcher (2001). She also talked about her father's quirks, adding that he was abusive, self-centered, and expected his children to live up to fictional ideals. Her brother, Matthew, responded to the book by saying his sister had "a troubled mind."

J.D. Salinger, who said: "There is a marvelous peace in not publishing. It's peaceful. Still. Publishing is a terrible invasion of my privacy. I like to write. I love to write. But I write just for myself and my own pleasure."

Sunday, December 30, 2012

New Year Resolve by May Sarton

New Year Resolve

The time has come
To stop allowing the clutter
To clutter my mind
Like dirty snow,
Shove it off and find
Clear time, clear water.

Time for a change,
Let silence in like a cat
Who has sat at my door
Neither wild nor strange
Hoping for food from my store
And shivering on the mat.

Let silence in.
She will rarely speak or mew,
She will sleep on my bed
And all I have ever been
Either false or true
Will live again in my head.

For it is now or not
As old age silts the stream,
To shove away the clutter,
To untie every knot,
To take the time to dream,
To come back to still water.
"New Year Resolve" by May Sarton, from Collected Poems 1930-1993. © W.W. Norton & Co., 1993.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

George Carlin's Words of Wisdom

Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways ,but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

If you don't share this with anyone....Who cares?

George Carlin

Cats and Art

  "There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats."

         ~Nobel Peace Prize winner Albert Schweitzer

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Clarity of Soul

December 27, 2012Clarity of Soul
Chakra Clearing Exercise

by Madisyn Taylor

Just as the spaces we inhabit need to be cleared of clutter, our energetic fields must also be cleared of the old.


Just as the physical spaces we inhabit require that we clear them periodically of clutter, the energetic fields that are a vital part of our being must also be cleared of old thoughts, energy, and emotions. Clearing your chakras and your aura restores and strengthens your connection to yourself and your divine inner wisdom. Unfettered by energetic baggage masquerading as fear, pain, and self-hatred, your consciousness is once again free to grow. If you find the thought of clearing your energy fields disconcerting, simply think of it as cleansing the energy that surrounds you and releasing any stagnancy. You may not be able to see the results of your efforts, but you will experience a lightness of being and clarity of mind.

You can begin by sitting or lying down on a comfortable surface. Take a series of deep breaths and allow your soul to connect with Mother Earth and the vast expanse of the Universe. Visualize your first chakra, situated near the tailbone, and imagine if you will, a valve opening there, much like a faucet. Imagine a cord dropping from your tailbone deep into Mother Earth and let everything that is stagnant within you flow through it. Let go of old energy, inactive thoughts, and anything else that no longer serves you. Ask the earth to accept what you are offering by turning this old energy into light. Continue to let old energy drain out of you until you feel like you’ve released all your energetic baggage. When you are done, imagine the valve closing. Before moving on to clear your next chakra, let vibrant terra cotta light travel upward from the earth and through the cord into your first chakra. Repeat this process with all seven of the body’s chakras. The second chakra i! s orange, the third is yellow, the fourth is green, the fifth is blue, the sixth is indigo and the 7th is violet. Afterward, visualize your crown chakra and draw beautiful, golden-white light from the universe flowing down through the top of your head. Release any worries or fears that you have been holding on to. Draw this light into your aura and enjoy the resultant feeling of peace.

To finish clearing your energy and ensure that you have rid yourself of the last vestiges of clutter, take a bath infused with one cup apple cider vinegar, one cup Epsom salt, and one cup sea salt. After completing this exercise, be sure to thank Mother Earth and the universe for their help.

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

A Note From the Universe

 
Phyll, no matter what your faith is, or is not, no matter where in the world you are, I want you to know, even as you read these words, I'm with you. Behind the eyes of every child, and in the melody of every song. I'm the glimmer in the ice crystals, the rays in the sun, and the stars at night. And with each smile you see, every hug you receive and every laugh you hear, I'll be there, reaching out through another, with blessing and good wishes...... And all of this because I love you, because I've always loved you, and because I always will. And because this has been true, and will be true, every day of your life, holidays or not.

Tally-ho, ho, ho -
    The Universe


 
Phyll, no matter what your faith is, or is not, no matter where in the world you are, I want you to know, even as you read these words, I'm with you. Behind the eyes of every child, and in the melody of every song. I'm the glimmer in the ice crystals, the rays in the sun, and the stars at night. And with each smile you see, every hug you receive and every laugh you hear, I'll be there, reaching out through another, with blessing and good wishes...... And all of this because I love you, because I've always loved you, and because I always will. And because this has been true, and will be true, every day of your life, holidays or not.

Tally-ho, ho, ho -
    The Universe




Phyll, no matter what your faith is, or is not, no matter where in the world you are, I want you to know, even as you read these words, I'm with you. Behind the eyes of every child, and in the melody of every song. I'm the glimmer in the ice crystals, the rays in the sun, and the stars at night. And with each smile you see, every hug you receive and every laugh you hear, I'll be there, reaching out through another, with blessing and good wishes...... And all of this because I love you, because I've always loved you, and because I always will. And because this has been true, and will be true, every day of your life, holidays or not.

Tally-ho, ho, ho -
    The Universe

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

My Christmas Thoughts

Do our thoughts affect our reality?
    Posted by: "PEP" pepstar27@yahoo.com pepstar27
    Date: Mon Dec 24, 2012 12:08 pm ((PST))

Good topic, Peter, especially for this time of year.  My answer:  absolutely!  Like you, I'm an HSP and quick to "take offense" over  not being included, spoken disrespectfully to, or any other number of (hundreds) of slights.

Slights, that is, in my opinion.  In my frame of mind, in my "nature". Which, as you know, is highly sensitive and prone to often "be looking" for the cold shoulder, the rolls of the eyes, the stepping back, and the list goes on (and on!)

But, in later years, and after reading up on HSP's, starting an HSP meet-up group here in town and realizing just how much my own attitude and thoughts were contributing to my own feeling bad, sad or mad, I was "able" to step back and STOP assigning so much blame, shame and re-frame many utterances that would've, prior to all my introspection and self-growth, would've had me curled up in bed feeling very sorry for myself.

No more.  Life is too darned short to respond like this, anymore.  Sometimes, I still feel mad or bad about something someone says or does (or doesn't say or do) but I can recover much quicker than in times past.  After the killings at Sandy Hook, my consciousness was raised yet another bar, as I realized how fruitless and tragic all these little lives taken by a madman really are.  I realized how precious and fleeting our OWN time here on Earth is, and I said to myself, even though I will be alone yet another Christmas, I REFUSE to spend it in the dolldrums or down-in-the-dumps.

NAY, I say, NAY!  I refuse to wallow in self-pity and grief.  So, I have 2 darling Christmas trees up, all aglow and decorated, have plans to go to a movie (Lincoln) with a friend and will have a lesisurely Christmas day with my pets, too.  Although alone, it'll be fine and fancy and, above all:  NOT SAD!

Ho-ho-ho,
Phyll

Christmas Day

December 25, 2012The Joy of Being
Celebrating the In-Between Times

by Madisyn Taylor

Real life most often happens during the in-between times when we are not celebrating a special occasion.


While celebrations are intended to honor life’s more momentous occasions, much of real life tends to happen during the in-between times. While moving from one moment in time to the next is seldom considered a significant occurrence, it is during those in-between times that we are most in tune with life’s most profound, albeit simple joys. Between birth and death, triumph and sorrow, beginnings and endings, we enjoy innumerable experiences that often happen unnoticed. These times are just as worthy of celebration.

The in-between times are seldom about landmark moments. How you choose to celebrate them or which moments you choose to celebrate is up to you. You may want to celebrate the simple facts that you are alive and that every day is a chance to spend time with the people you care about or do the work that you love. Then again, when you look at the good that exists in your life, many reasons for celebrating the in-between times may become clear: a cup of your favorite tea, a beautiful sunrise, a good book, and the smell of fresh air can be reasons for celebration.

Celebrating the in-between times can be as easy as paying special attention to them when they do happen, rather than taking them for granted. It’s your focus of attention that can turn an in-between time into a celebration. You can also pay homage to the in-between times by slowing down and allowing yourself time to look around and allow your heart and mind to take in all of your life’s wonders. Far too often, we can let those simple moments of awe pass us by. The in-between times are when life happens to us between the pauses that we take to honor our milestones occasions. Without the in-between times, there would be no big moments to celebrate.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Love

Shift Happens!

Daily Inspiration 21 December 2012

To be happy, you have to be willing to
make love more important than your ego,
than you independence, than being right,
than your cynicism,than your favourite complaints,
and than any old wounds.

Stay Active



Haven't all the years you've spent being Santa Claus, Phyll, been more fun than all the years you spent waiting for Santa Claus?

And not just for the joy you've helped place on your favorite faces, but for your ability to act instead of wait. Acting makes the suspense bearable. It gives you a starring role. Time passes more quickly. And best of all, it makes possible your dance with life as you network and mingle with other dancers.

And so it is in all things, Phyll, especially those dreams that have placed their trust in you... act, don't wait.

Happy Hallelujah, Santa Claus!
    The Universe

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Top 10 Ways to Live Well



Finally, Phyll, the Official Top Ten Spiritual Ways to Defeat Boredom, Make Friends, Find Love, Trim Down, Shape Up, Discover Your Purpose, Make a Fortune, and Shine Your Light, are...

1. Take action.
2. Show up.
3. Lean into it.
4. Start anywhere.
5. Keep busy.
6. Get out more.
7. Ask for help.
8. Shake more hands.
9. Give more hugs.
10. Don't stop.

You were already visualizing, right?

Today,
    The Universe

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Art and Madness

Today is the birthday of painter Edvard Munch, born in Løten, Norway (1863). A sickly child himself, he lost both parents and two of his siblings to tuberculosis. Another sister went mad. "I inherited two of mankind's most frightful enemies — the heritage of consumption and insanity — illness and madness and death were the black angels that stood at my cradle," he wrote in his journal.
Munch tried to convey emotional turmoil through the use of color and distorted shapes. His most famous painting, The Scream (1893), influenced the German Expressionist movement of the early 20th century. Munch had a nervous breakdown in 1908, ending up in a sanitarium. He gave up drinking and managed to gain some tranquility in the second half of his life, but his art lacked the passion of his earlier, tormented period. "Without anxiety and illness," he wrote, "I am a ship without a rudder. [...] My sufferings are part of my self and my art. They are indistinguishable from me, and their destruction would destroy my art."

Emily Dickinson's Birthday and Poem (Dec. 10th)

This World Is Not Conclusion

this world is not conclusion
a species stands beyond -
invisible, as music -
but positive as sound -

it beckons, and it baffles
philosophy - don't know -
and through a riddle, at the last -
sagacity must go -

to guess it, puzzles scholars -
to gain it, men have borne
contempt of generations
and crucifixion, shown -

faith slips - and laughs, and rallies -
blushes, if any see -
plucks at a twig of evidence -
and asks a vane, the way -

much gesture, from the pulpit -
strong hallelujahs roll -
narcotics cannot still the tooth
that nibbles at the soul -
"This World Is Not Conclusion" by Emily Dickinson. Public domain.


Today is the birthday (Dec. 10th)  of "the Belle of Amherst": Emily Dickinson (books by this author), born in Amherst, Massachusetts, on this date (1830). She spent most of her adult life in her corner bedroom in her father's house. The room contained a writing table, a dresser, a Franklin stove, a clock, a ruby decanter, and pictures on the wall of three writers: George Eliot, Elizabeth Barrett Browning, and Thomas Carlyle. Her favorite author was Shakespeare. She eventually wrote more than 1,700 poems. In the year 1862 alone, she wrote 366 poems — about one per day.

Most people think of Emily Dickinson as a slightly odd recluse, but she was in fact very outgoing in her younger years. As she became more passionate about writing poetry, she went out less and devoted her life to her verses. Over the years, scholars have come up with a lot of theories for her growing reclusiveness. Some believe it was because she was nursing a mysteriously broken heart, others think she was a closeted lesbian, and still others think she suffered from Seasonal Affective Disorder. One biographer speculates that she may have suffered from epilepsy.

Emily Dickinson said: "If I read a book [and] it makes my whole body so cold no fire ever can warm me, I know that is poetry. If I feel physically as if the top of my head were taken off, I know that is poetry."

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Success is Kindness, First

The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds.
 
Tenzin Gyatso14th Dalai Lama of Tibet

Monday, November 26, 2012

Cool Quote

By author, Marilynne Robinson:

In Gilead, she wrote: "Sometimes I have loved the peacefulness of an ordinary Sunday. It is like standing in a newly planted garden after a warm rain. You can feel the silent and invisible life. All it needs from you is that you take care not to trample on it."

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Telephone Connections Poem

The Telephone

My happiness depends on an electric appliance
And I do not mind giving it so much credit
With life in this city being what it is
Each person separated from friends
By a tangle of subways and buses
Yes my telephone is my joy
It tells me that I am in the world and wanted
It rings and I am alerted to love or gossip
I go comb my hair which begins to sparkle
Without it I was like a bear in a cave
Drowsing through a shadowy winter
It rings and spring has come
I stretch and amble out into the sunshine
Hungry again as I pick up the receiver
For the human voice and the good news of friends
"The Telephone" by Edward Field, from Counting Myself Lucky. © Black Sparrow Press, 1992

Friday, November 23, 2012

Neat Poem

God's Letters

When God thought up the world,
the alphabet letters
whistled in his crown,
where they were engraved
with a pen of fire,
each wanting to begin
the story of Creation.

S said, I am Soul.
I can Shine out
from within your creatures.
God replied, I know that,
but you are Sin, too.

L said, I am Love,
and I brush away malice.
God rejoined, Yes,
but you are Lie,
and falsehood is not
what I had in mind.

P said, I am Praise,
and where there's a celebration,
I Perform
in my Purple coat.
Yes, roared God,
but at the same time,
you are Pessimism—
the other side of Praise.
And so forth.

All the letters
had two sides or more.
None was pure.
There was a clamor
in paradise, words,
syllables, shouting
to be seen and heard
for the glory
of the new heavens and earth.

God fell silent,
wondering,
How can song
rise from that commotion?

Rather than speculate,
God chose B,
who had intoned,
Bashfully, Boldly,
Blessed is his name.

And he made A
first in the Alphabet
for admitting, I am All—
a limitation
and a possibility.
"God's Letters" by Grace Schulman, from Days of Wonder. © Houghton Mifflin Company, 2002.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Good Advice

Advice to Myself

Leave the dishes. Let the celery rot in the bottom drawer of the refrigerator
and an earthen scum harden on the kitchen floor.
Leave the black crumbs in the bottom of the toaster.
Throw the cracked bowl out and don't patch the cup.
Don't patch anything. Don't mend. Buy safety pins.
Don't even sew on a button.
Let the wind have its way, then the earth
that invades as dust and then the dead
foaming up in gray rolls underneath the couch.
Talk to them. Tell them they are welcome.
Don't keep all the pieces of the puzzles
or the doll's tiny shoes in pairs, don't worry
who uses whose toothbrush or if anything
matches, at all.
Except one word to another. Or a thought.
Pursue the authentic—decide first
what is authentic,
then go after it with all your heart.
Your heart, that place
you don't even think of cleaning out.
That closet stuffed with savage mementos.
Don't sort the paper clips from screws from saved baby teeth
or worry if we're all eating cereal for dinner
again. Don't answer the telephone, ever,
or weep over anything at all that breaks.
Pink molds will grow within those sealed cartons
in the refrigerator. Accept new forms of life
and talk to the dead
who drift in through the screened windows, who collect
patiently on the tops of food jars and books.
Recycle the mail, don't read it, don't read anything
except what destroys
the insulation between yourself and your experience
or what pulls down or what strikes at or what shatters
this ruse you call necessity.
"Advice to Myself" by Louise Erdrich from Original Fire. © Harper Collins Publishers, 2003.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Life Can Be Beautiful

Post written by Leo Babauta.
This morning I awoke, meditated in the quiet dark empty room, and then went to make my coffee.
The world outside is wet, and the raindrops patter upon the leaves of the lemon tree, with its bursts of bright yellow.
My kids and Eva asleep, at peace.
And as I drink my coffee I think of you, dear reader.
And I am struck by the beauty of this world, and the fragile human lives struggling to make their way within it.
And shaken.
The pain and stress and anger and sadness and loneliness and frustration and fear and cravings and irritations that we will experience today … they are made up. We can let them go as easily as they arise. They are unnecessary, if we realize that we’ve created them for no good reason.
Instead, see the beauty in every moment. In every person’s so human actions. In our own frailties and failures.
This world is a morning poem, and we have but to see it to be shaken by its beauty, over and over.

Monday, November 5, 2012

HSP and Creativity

Being Highly Sensitive and Creative

By Douglas Eby
Are creative people unusually sensitive? Clinical and research reports confirm that is often true – as well as comments by many creative people about their own experience.
For example, creativity coach Lisa A. Riley, LMFT notes:
Throughout my practice, I have encountered a connection between highly sensitive people and their own creative impulses.
This characteristic does not discriminate between painter, actor, or musician—they all appear to have one thing in common: they experience the world differently than the average individual.
Creatives often feel and perceive more intensely, dramatically, and with a wildly vivid color palate to draw from, which can only be described as looking at the world through a much larger lens.
From her guest post: 
Highly Sensitive Personality and Creativity – which includes a link to her site with resources for creative people: The Art of Mind.
Of course, being creative is not limited to people identified as artists, or just those who are pursuing creative ventures.
Both creativity and being sensitive are on a spectrum – a range of different levels. And simply being sensitive does not mean you are necessarily creative or an artist.
Oh please be careful with me
I’m sensitive
 And I’d like to stay that way
From the song “I’m Sensitive” by Jewel Kilcher -
from her debut album Pieces of You.
Writer Pearl Buck made a very strong declaration about sensitivity:
“The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this: A human creature born abnormally, inhumanely sensitive.
“To them… a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death.
“Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create, create, create — so that without the creating of music or poetry or books or buildings or something of meaning, their very breath is cut off… They must create, must pour out creation. By some strange, unknown, inward urgency they are not really alive unless they are creating.”
Her novel The Good Earth won a Pulitzer Prize, and in 1938 she won the Nobel Prize in literature.
Pearl Buck’s statement, even if today it sounds overblown, is something you may relate to if you experience high sensitivity, and a compelling need to create.
Psychologist Elaine Aron, PhD is probably the leading expert on high sensitivity, or more technically, sensory processing sensitivity.
Her research has found it is an innate personality trait present in 15 to 20 percent of us. It is not the same as introversion or shyness, though there are interactions and overlaps, as I note in my post Shyness, Introversion, Sensitivity – What’s the Difference?
Dr. Aron explains: “Highly sensitive individuals are those born with a tendency to notice more in their environment and deeply reflect on everything before acting, as compared to those who notice less and act quickly and impulsively. As a result, sensitive people, both children and adults, tend to be empathic, smart, intuitive, creative, careful, and conscientious…”
From her book The Highly Sensitive Child. Her newer book is The Undervalued Self.
Back to Pearl Buck’s famous quote above: “The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this: A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive” etc.
While I appreciate her perspectives, there are parts I don’t agree with: What does “truly creative” even mean, and is she implying that only those who are highly sensitive qualify as “true” creators?
Also, she says “inhumanly sensitive” as though it were some extreme condition – but research by psychologist Elaine Aron, PhD and others indicates the trait occurs with 15 – 20 % of people.
In an edition of her newsletter Comfort Zone, Dr. Aron writes that Buck “was saying all creative people are highly sensitive. I don’t know about that, but I know ALL HSPs are creative, by definition.
“Many have squashed their creativity because of their low self-esteem; many more had it squashed for them, before they could ever know about. But we all have it…One of the best ways to make life meaningful for an HSP is to use that creativity.”
See more in my Creative Mind post Elaine Aron on Creativity and Sensitivity.
Also, much as I appreciate Jewel’s lyrics: “I want to stay that way” – saying “Please be careful with me” can imply the criticism people have about highly sensitive people, saying things like “Lighten up” or simply “You’re too sensitive.”
As a sensitive person, it isn’t up to others – it’s up to you to learn your needs and limits, and take care of not getting overwhelmed, so you can really embrace your sensitive trait and use it creatively.
More on sensitivity and creative ability
This connection continues to be confirmed by many people’s personal experience.
“I’m a very sensitive person. I hurt real easy and real deep, which is why I think I have to write songs, [and] why so many of them fit the feelings of so many people that can’t write. It’s because I feel everything to my core.” Dolly Parton   [checkout.com]
“She has the same kind of passion and excess [as Joan] and, you know, she can laugh and she can cry two seconds afterwards. She can cry for an ant on the street. She has, like, no skin. She feels everything. Even the wind can make her cry.” – Director Luc Besson – about Milla Jovovich in their film ”The Messenger: The Story of Joan of Arc” [LA Times, 11.11.99]
“I get emotional all the time,” says Jennifer Beals. “I get emotional every time I make a speech, or talk about other cast members,” she says. “Every now and again, my heart just explodes and expands.”
Laurel Holloman, her castmate on  “The L Word”, has seen this firsthand. “If Jennifer is passionate about something, it comes to the surface within seconds,” she says. “My theory on that is all the best actors have a couple of layers of skin peeled away. There’s a huge emotional life in Jennifer, and it’s kind of beautiful.” [From article The Real Beals - by Jancee Dunn, Lifetime, August 2004]
According to various research studies, creative people are more open to stimuli from environment

 – another aspect of being highly sensitive. Here is a summary of one research study.
Decreased Latent Inhibition Is Associated With Increased Creative Achievement in High-Functioning Individuals 


The study in the September [2003] issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology says the brains of creative people appear to be more open to incoming stimuli from the surrounding environment. 

Other people’s brains might shut out this same information through a process called “latent inhibition” – defined as an animal’s unconscious capacity to ignore stimuli that experience has shown are irrelevant to its needs.
Through psychological testing, the researchers showed that creative individuals are much more likely to have low levels of latent inhibition.
“This means that creative individuals remain in contact with the extra information constantly streaming in from the environment,” says co-author and University of Toronto psychology professor Jordan Peterson.
Co-researcher and psychology lecturer Shelley Carson of Harvard University’s Faculty of Arts and Sciences said “Scientists have wondered for a long time why madness and creativity seem linked. 

”It appears likely that low levels of latent inhibition and exceptional flexibility in thought might predispose to mental illness under some conditions and to creative accomplishment under others.”
Of course, the statement “might predispose to mental illness” does not mean we are more likely to be “crazy” if we are sensitive. But sensitivity can be emotionally challenging, stressful, and possibly an issue in our mental health.
What is sensitivity?
Highly Sensitive People – HSPs – have an uncommonly sensitive nervous system – a normal occurrence, according to Dr. Elaine Aron and other researchers. She notes:
“About 15 to 20 percent of the population have this trait.
“It means you are aware of subtleties in your surroundings, a great advantage in many situations.
“It also means you are more easily overwhelmed when you have been out in a highly stimulating environment for too long, bombarded by sights and sounds until you are exhausted.”
An HSP herself, Aron reassures other Highly Sensitive People that they are quite normal, and that their trait is not a flaw or a syndrome, nor is it a reason to brag. It is an asset they can learn to use and protect.
Quotes are from summary of book The Highly Sensitive Person on her site The Highly Sensitive Person.
Books by Elaine Aron include:
The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive  
When the World Overwhelms You
The Highly Sensitive Person’s Workbook
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love
The Highly Sensitive Child
Dr. Aron’s excellent site includes a wide range of information, and a self-test.
She writes on the site about HSPs – highly sensitive people :
“This trait is not something new I discovered — it has been mislabeled as shyness (not an inherited trait), introversion (30% of HSPs are actually extraverts), inhibitedness, fearfulness, and the like.
“HSPs can be these, but none of these are the fundamental trait they have inherited. The reason for these negative misnomers and general lack of research on the subject is that in this culture being tough and outgoing is the preferred or ideal personality — not high sensitivity.
“This cultural bias affects HSPs as much as their trait affects them, as I am sure you realize. Even those who loved you probably told you, ‘don’t be so sensitive,’ making you feel abnormal when in fact you could do nothing about it and it is not abnormal at all.”
This common reaction from other people – “Don’t be so sensitive” – is something a lot of us have experienced in life at different ages, and it probably has had an enduring impact on how we accept ourselves and think about being sensitive.
Especially as a creative person, you need to follow your own path, your own mind and heart, and be authentic – not conform to other’s ideas of acceptable personality traits.
Introversion and shyness, as Aron notes, may not inherently be part of the trait of sensitivity, but in my personal experience, and reading of many quotes by sensitive people, introversion and other qualities such as emotional intensity often accompany being sensitive.
Here are some more quotes by artists:
Actor / musician Mandy Moore: “I’m extremely-extremely sensitive. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I’m such a girl when it comes to that. Anything upsets me. I cry all the time. I cry when I’m happy too.”  absolutely.net
Heath Ledger cried all night after being attacked with water pistols by paparazzi at the Sydney premiere of Brokeback Mountain – and later sold his $4.45 million beachside home in Australia to relocate to Brooklyn with partner Michelle Williams and baby Matilda.   [Daily Telegraph, 2006]
Winona Ryder: “There have been some traumatic experiences in my life that have resulted in my feeling that maybe I was going insane for a little while… How do you ever explain the feelings of anxiety and paralysing fear? I can’t answer those questions. It’s just a feeling of ‘Am I crazy? Am I too sensitive to be in this world?’
“A feeling that the world is just too complicated for me right now, and I don’t feel like I belong here. But it passes, and fortunately today I feel blessed for all the good things in my life.” [cinema.com]
Winona Ryder’s comment bring up the issue of anxiety.
In her newsletter article “Tips for HSPs’ Less Sensitive Friends and Lovers” Elaine Aron writes:
“HSPs are more affected by having troubled childhoods — such a past can, for example, make them anxious, depressed, insecure, or shy as adults.
“This has nothing to do with the trait itself — HSPs with good-enough childhoods do not have these troubles. Nor are the problems unchangeable. They can be vastly improved by your attitude and by your HSP’s inner work, especially in skilled psychotherapy (sometimes along with medications).
“The work is slow and often difficult, as is almost anything worthwhile. HSPs often like this inner work–they are well designed for it…”
Anxiety has often been part of my life, so perhaps I am more aware of it and concerned about its impacts, but I think it is often connected with sensitivity, especially for creative people who are generally more willing than others to access their emotions.
If it is part of your life, it is worth the effort to deal with it, because anxiety can keep you from more fully expressing your creative talents.
My Talent Development Resources series of sites has a number of articles on anxiety, plus a site: Anxiety Relief Solutions.
Excitabilities
High sensitivity may be related to a number of “excitabilities” described in research on gifted children and adults, particularly by psychologist/psychiatrist Kazimierz Dabrowski.
These personal “channels of information flow” and modes of experiencing can impact how gifted and creative individuals reach higher levels of development.
But even for non-gifted people, these “excitabilities” may be relevant.
Taking care of your sensitive self
Sensitive Living Coach Jenna Avery writes about self-care and embracing our sensitivity to thrive in her article Are You Highly Sensitive?
“Learning to thrive as a Highly Sensitive Soul presents challenges. If you’re sensitive, you have likely accumulated years of training in trying overcome the trait because you don’t “fit in” with society.
“And yet being Highly Sensitive is a vital part of you. A first step toward thriving as a Sensitive Soul is to understand and accept your trait.
“Hear this now: There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are just different. As one of my clients says, being Highly Sensitive is both a gift and a responsibility.
“Sensitive Souls require regular self-care, meaningful work, and supportive relationships. Working with a sensitive coach or therapist who helps you tune into your own magnificent inner guidance system — your sensitivity — is a powerful means of support.”
See her site for other posts, and for her online classes and other resources: jennaavery.com.
Another coach who specializes in helping HSPs is Ane Axford, MS, LMFT, a marriage and family therapist.
She writes, “Understanding high sensitivity helps to understand that there is nothing wrong with you or HSPs in your life. This allows you to start focusing on living in a way that fits instead of trying to make your self fit.
“I find that once sensitive people are able to move through their struggles, they can then thrive, and be Sensitive Leaders. It’s definitely time to get out of struggling with sensitivity and survival, into thriving and leading powerfully with sensitivity.”

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Courage and Creativity

Courage and creativity
by Douglas Eby
"You learn courage by couraging."
In a review of the book The Courage to Create by Rollo May, psychologist Stephen Diamond comments, "Creativity always requires taking a chance on one's self... and moving ahead despite self-doubts, discouragement and anxiety. 
"Courage, as May makes clear, is not the absence of insecurity, fear, anxiety or despair, but resides in the decision to move through these feelings as constructively or creatively as possible."
Writer Anais Nin declared, "It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before, to test your limits, to break through barriers."
Sandra Ford Walston is a courage coach, keynote speaker and corporate trainer, and author of a book on courage, written especially for women.
In an article about her, Jill Lawrence wrote: "Walston says the two things in her life that required ultimate courage were the giving up of her son for adoption and embarking on a writing career. 
"She had a lot of fear around being a writer. She preferred to express herself through her public speaking. Yet, her courage enabled her to face that fear and get on with a writing career."
Lawrence writes that Walston refers in the book to the 1939 classic film "The Wizard of Oz," with the lion who was "so desperately searching for courage... Of course, the Lion in question actually had a tremendous reservoir of courage but was unable to see that truth about himself. 'That's often the case, especially for women,' [Walston] explains."
Part of the reason it may be difficult for some women to acknowledge or make use of their courage is that patriarchal societies associate strength and courage with physical power, and with men but not women.
Another article posted on Walston's website says, "But in earlier times, courage meant mental or moral strength to venture, to persevere, and to withstand danger, fear, or difficulty," Walston explains. 
"If this broader definition of courage prevailed, women would be viewed much differently today... If every woman identified the acts she performs every day as courageous, she would be able to use that same courage to transform her life and accomplish her heart's desire."
Walston and other writers point out it is a strength that can be developed.
Philosopher Mary Daly has commented, "I think you guard against decay, in general, and stagnation, by moving, by continuing to move. And with courage. And courage is like -- it's a habitus, a habit, a virtue: you get it by courageous acts. It's like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging."
Writer and script consultant Linda Seger said in an interview of ours, "You have to learn how to be in scary areas, make those comfortable, then go to the next scary area and make it comfortable. If we want to be in a little cocoon, well, that's where we're going to be. 
"But the nature of moving out of your little cocoon into another area is that it is scary, and it's not just a matter of saying you have to have courage, because you learn courage."
Jill Lawrence said Walston "demonstrated courage in her personal life as well" when she was dumped by her fianc*. "I had no friends, no family and only knew the area in a mile-and-a-half radius around where I was living [said Walston]. I didn't know what I was going to do. One thing I did know how to do was to make lemonade out of water." 
"It was from this experience," writes Lawrence, "that a defining moment arose and a crystallization of an insight surfaced to her: she was to write a book about women and courage. 'I had to reinvent myself one more time and draw upon my ever-growing reservoir of courage! During that sad and lonely period, a voice told me that if I could weather the melancholy and loneliness, a revelation would come to me,' Walston exults." 
Actress Gillian Anderson wrote in the foreword to the book Girl Boss by Stacy Kravetz, "I believe from the bottom of my heart that there is nothing we as human beings, and especially we as women cannot tackle. 
"It is not a matter of being fearless. The fear is sometimes constant but it's about moving forward regardless of the fear. Courage means feeling the fear and doing it anyway."

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Keats the Poet

It's the birthday of English poet John Keats (books by this author), born in London (1795). Keats's short life was marked by the deaths of friends and family members. His father died when he was nine, and one year later, his grandfather died. When he was 15, his mother died of tuberculosis, the disease that eventually killed his brother and, later, Keats himself.

He began writing poetry after he had started his career as an apothecary in London. His first book, Poems (1817), was not well received. His publishers dropped him, but other poets saw promise in his work. His breakthrough poem was a sonnet called "On first looking into Chapman's Homer." Keats had stayed up all night reading George Chapman's translations of the Iliad and the Odyssey with a friend. They stopped reading at 6:00 a.m., and by 10:00, Keats had written the poem and set it on the breakfast table for his friend.

Keats fell in love with Fanny Brawne, a young woman whom he met shortly after the death of his brother. They were engaged in 1819. The two wrote frequently to one another, but did not spend much time together. Keats was already fighting his own ill health. In one letter, he wrote, "I have two luxuries to brood over in my walks, your Loveliness and the hour of my death."

Keats wrote most of the poetry for which he is famous in one 12-month period, from September 1818 to September 1819. He wrote "Ode on a Grecian Urn," "Ode to a Nightingale," "Ode on Melancholy," "La Belle Dame Sans Merci," and "To Autumn." One of Keats's sonnets foreshadowed his early death. He wrote: "When I have fears that I may cease to be / Before my pen has glean'd my teeming brain, / ... — then on the shore / Of the wide world I stand alone, and think / Till love and fame to nothingness do sink." (1818). He died three years later, in a small bedroom in a house in Rome. His tombstone reads, at his request, "Here lies one whose name was writ in water."

Keats wrote, "A thing of beauty is a joy forever: its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness."

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Autumn is Upon Us

Autumn is a second spring where every leaf is a flower.
~Albert Camus~

Diamond Sutra

Thus should you see this fleeting world;
a star at dawn, a bubble in a stream,
a flash of lightening in a summer cloud,
a flickering lamp, a phantom and a dream.

~ Diamond Sutra

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Dance!

"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about
learning how to dance in the rain." ~ Vivian Greene

Thursday, October 25, 2012

How to Live a Long and Happy Life

Thursday, October 25, 2012 9:10 PM
 


Posted: 25 Oct 2012 07:18 AM PDT
Post written by Leo Babauta.
This article in the N.Y. Times about the superhealthy community on the little Greek island of Ikaria is enlightening.
Ikarians are living much older than most other Westerners, and are healthy, active, purposeful and happy well into old age. What’s their secret? Is it diet, or exercise, or no smoking, or a little bit of red wine?
Sure, it’s a bit of those things, but more importantly, it’s the community.
Ikarians live in a community where it is the norm to eat mostly plant foods (beans, potatoes, veggies from the garden), drink some wine with neighbors, walk everywhere, garden during the day, take naps in the afternoon, not stress about time, wake naturally, socialize with the community every day.
In the U.S., we often live in communities where it is the norm to drive everywhere, sit most of the day, eat fast food or at chain restaurants or convenience foods, eat lots of meat and fried foods and dairy, be isolated, be inactive, hurry up and stress out about time.
The problem isn’t so much forming individual healthy habits, but forming a community that fosters healthy habits.
This bears out when you look at other communities that are healthy, even well into old age: the Okinawans, the Seventh-Day Adventists in Loma Linda, California, the Sardinians, and so on. They all have communities that foster healthy habits.
So what can we do if we’re in the wrong kind of community? Create a superhealth community.
Let’s look at our options.

Outline of a Superhealth Community

There isn’t one single definition of what a “Superhealth” Community would entail — if you look at the examples above, there are all slightly different kinds of habits that people in these communities have. But here are some of what seem to be important:
  1. Interact daily. Socializing is an important function in community, whether that be visiting neighbors, meeting in a marketplace, going to church, or talking in some way.
  2. Walk or exercise. Most of the communities mentioned above feature daily walking — sometimes a daily walk for exercise and socializing, other times just to get around to the store or neighbors’ houses.
  3. Eat plants. While not all communities mentioned above are vegetarian, plants make up the huge majority of their calories. Cow’s milk doesn’t, and meat is usually a small part of their meal. Okinawans (traditionally) eat soy and purple sweet potatoes and lots of veggies and a little fish, Sardinians eat beans and potatoes and veggies and goat’s cheese. Lots and lots of vegetables and fruits are good. Read about forming a plant-based diet.
  4. Eat in moderation. All of the communities mentioned eat in moderation. The American standard, however, is to super-size and pile plates high. Moderation is a good thing.
  5. Garden. It seems like almost everyone in these communities has a garden, and they garden daily. This is one area I haven’t included in my life yet.
  6. Wine. Actually, I think the Okinawans drink a nasty tasting home-brewed alcohol, but the Ikarians drink wine, so I’ll choose their method. They do it in moderation, and socially.
  7. Tea. There are lots of good things in tea, and drinking it in the late afternoon is a good ritual, also socially if possible.
  8. Purpose. Have a reason to get up in the morning. In the U.S., the retired (or unemployed) often don’t have this purpose, and don’t feel they have anything useful to do each day. The community should integrate them and draw upon their knowledge and experience — the elderly are great teachers and can be very active into old age.
You might also include attitudes about time, taking naps, waking naturally, and having a positive outlook on life. But I think the seven things outlined above would be a good start.
Now let’s look at some of our options if we live in a modern society.

Option 1: Friends & Family Community

If you friends and family aren’t that healthy yet, start talking to them about doing a monthly challenge, where you adopt one of the healthy habits above. See how many of them you can get on board — it might only be one or two at first, but two people is all that’s needed to form a community. Others might be inspired to join you in later months when they see the healthy changes you’ve made.
So for the first month, simply form the habit of walking. The next month, aim to eat more plants and less meat and dairy. The third month, simply get together and drink tea on a regular basis. And so on.
Get together on a regular basis — daily if that’s possible, but at least a couple times a week. And if you can’t get together daily, talk on the phone, on Facebook, or via email on a daily basis. This regular contact helps you get support from each other, keep each other accountable, forms a bond of doing something together.

Option 2: Find Like-Minded Friends

If you don’t have friends or family who can join you in a Superhealth Community, find some new friends. I’ve found good ones online who are in my area, and also by joining a running club. You can go to vegan meet-ups, or join a fitness bootcamp class or yoga class, and meet people there.
Even if you can just find one like-minded friend, that’s a good start. Then ask your new friend to join you in the monthly challenges outlined in the first option above.

Option 3: Create or Join an Online Community

If you can’t find people near you, then find them online. Today there’s no excuse for not being able to find people interested in what you’re interested in — they exist in troves online.
Don’t know where to start? How about Facebook friends, or Facebook groups? Or go to large healthy blogs and join the commenting community. Or find online forums that are about the topics you’re interested in changing.
If you can find a few online friends, start your own group. There are a few dozen ways, at least, to form an online group that talks on a regular basis, that can support each other in healthy changes.

Option 4: Change Your Neighborhood

This is the hardest option, because it involves changing a large group of people who don’t talk to each other often (probably), and who might not want to change. That’s OK — don’t focus on that part.
You can start by creating something new, or joining something already there:
  • A community garden
  • A group that walks every morning or afternoon
  • A gardening class
  • A running club
  • A vegan meet-up
  • Get-togethers featuring tea or wine and plant foods
  • Community projects where people work together with purpose
  • Classes taught by the elderly
Those are just a few ideas. You don’t have to get everyone to change — but you can start the change by leading by example.
A Superhealth Community might sound difficult, but really it’s not. It’s getting together (in real life or online) with at least one other person, and supporting each other in a healthy lifestyle. After you have one other person, maybe later you’ll have two. Then you’ll have changed the world.

Patience is a Virtue

Thursday, October 25, 2012 11:42 AM
 
Patience child, patience. Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once there'd be no point to living. Enjoy the ride, and in the end you'll see these 'set backs' as giant leaps forward, only you couldn't see the bigger picture in the moment. Remain calm, all is within reach; all you have to do is show up everyday, stay true to your path and you will surely find the treasure you seek.
 
Mastin KippInspirational Author and Founder of The Daily Love

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Being Alive

My meditation this morning was on 3 questions:
From 0-100% how alive do ! feel?
What helps me feel alive?
How can I increase my aliveness?

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Miracle of Miracles

If you don't believe in miracles
perhaps you've forgotten
that you are one.

 
Author UnknownBut Greatly Appreciated!

Monday, October 15, 2012

Dance and Be Happy!

 "We should consider every day lost on which
   we have not danced at least once."

   ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

From "The Universe"



Neither a promotion, losing weight, finding a soul mate, writing a book, nor becoming a billionaire, Phyll, will ensure happiness.

Nothing ensures happiness. No destination is great enough. No dream come true will do.

Because happiness, dear Phyll, that's not present at the start of a journey will not be present at its end.

Après vous,
    The Universe

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Cats are Regal

"Like a graceful vase, a cat, even when motionless, seems to flow."

George Wil ~ Puitzer Prize Winning Author

Friday, October 12, 2012

Be Kind to One Another

It's the birthday of actress, playwright, and novelist Alice Childress (books by this author), born in Charleston, South Carolina (1916). Childress was primarily a playwright, and her plays included Trouble in Mind (1955), Wedding Band (1966), and Wine in the Wilderness (1969). But she's best known for her novels A Hero Ain't Nothin' but a Sandwich (1973) and A Short Walk (1979).
Childress said, "Life is just a short walk from the cradle to the grave, and it sure behooves us to be kind to one another along the way."

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Love IS the Answer

"It matters not who you love,
where you love, why you love,
when you love, or how you love,
It matters only that You love."
John Lennon

Monday, October 8, 2012

Choose Love

In any moment of your life,
you are choosing between love
and something else.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Manners Are a Girl's Best Friend

Today is the birthday of manners maven Emily Post (books by this author), born Emily Price in Baltimore, Maryland (1873). She started writing to support herself and her two sons; her marriage had broken up in 1905 when her husband lost his fortune in a stock panic and it came out that he had been having affairs with a series of showgirls. Post wrote articles about architecture and interior design, and published several novels. One day, an editor suggested that she write an etiquette manual, because her novels were full of observations about etiquette. She thought etiquette manuals were awful, so she set out to write one that was more about treating people decently rather than just following rules. The result was her book Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home (1922), and she wrote about etiquette for the rest of her life.

Emily Post, who said, "Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use."

Uncertainties



At any point in one's life, Phyll, the greater the uncertainties they face, the greater their chances of hitting a major, life-changing "home run."

Rock the Casbah,
    The Universe

Monday, October 1, 2012

Love Conquers All

At this point in history we have a choice
to make to either walk a path of love
or be crippled by our hate.
Stevie Wonder, A time For Love

Sunday, September 30, 2012

The Horse

Horse, thou art truly a creature without equal, for thou fliest without wings and conquerest without sword.

~ The Koran

Friday, September 28, 2012

Long Live Ed Sullivan

Today is the birthday of television host and "Great Stone Face" Ed Sullivan, born Edward Vincent Sullivan to an Irish Catholic family in New York City (1901). In 1948, he was asked to host a Sunday-night variety show for the CBS network called "Toast of the Town." Sullivan's on-screen presence was savaged by critics as wooden and lacking personality. He was compared to the great stone statues of Easter Island, and one New York critic simply wrote after seeing the debut, "Why? Why? Why?" But the network stuck by him, and what Sullivan lacked in obvious star power, he made up for in his instincts with the public. He booked all the talent himself and made sure there was something for everyone, from vaudeville acts, to popular recording artists, to Topo Gigio, the little Italian mouse puppet. He had a self-deprecating sense of humor and would often encourage visiting comedians like Rich Little in their imitations of him.

In the 1950s, the program became "The Ed Sullivan Show," and he established a name for himself for breaking new talent, landing bands like "The Beatles" for their first live performance on U.S. television, which was then the most watched TV event of all time.

Sullivan also passionately fought back against pressures to avoid booking black talent, first exposing Sammy Davis Jr. and Ella Fitzgerald to a national TV audience. He was a big booster of the Motown label, hosting nearly every artist on their roster. The Supremes were a Sullivan Show favorite, appearing 17 times. When Nat King Cole appeared in 1954, Sullivan introduced him saying, "I've never met a finer performer or a finer human being." And in 1963, he supported Dylan's walking off his show when the network refused to let him perform his "Talking John Birch Society Blues," a song he himself had approved.

The Ed Sullivan Show ran for 23 years until it was canceled in 1971 for poor ratings, making it one of the longest-running shows in television history.
Sullivan said: "If you do a good job for others, you heal yourself at the same time, because a dose of joy is a spiritual cure. It transcends all barriers."

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Present Moment, Wonderful Moment

I see that I have written a good deal about pain. This is no coincidence. It may be different for others, but pain is what it took to teach me to pay attention. In times of pain, when the future is too terrifying to contemplate and the past too painful to remember, I have learned to pay attention to right now. The precise moment I was in was always the only safe place for me. Each moment, taken alone, was always bearable. In the exact now, we are all, always, all right. Yesterday the marriage may have ended. Tomorrow the cat may die. The phone call from the lover, for all my waiting, may never come, but just at the moment, just now, that's all right. I am breathing in and out. Realizing this, I began to notice that each moment was not without its beauty.
- Julia Cameron

Monday, September 24, 2012

Go With the Flow

Like a drifting cloud
bound by nothing
I just let go,
giving myself up
to the whim of the wind.
Ryokan (1758-1831)

Ryokan

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Life is Life

We are alive.  Be grateful for that.  I have 2 funerals to go to in one week.  June's and Helen's.  June was 84.  Helen, 61.  Tragic.  They were both my good friends.  Now, they're gone. 

I grieve.  For them.  For me.  For everyone.

Life is hard.  Shine the light on your JOY! 

Be grateful for all you have.

For it will all be over soon. 

As will you.

Einstein Quote

"Everything is determined, the beginning as well as the end, by forces over which we have no control. It is determined for insects as well as for the stars. Human beings, vegetables, or cosmic dust, we all dance to a mysterious tune, intoned in the distance by an invisible piper."

- Albert Einstein
interview, The Saturday Evening Post, October 26, 1929

Monday, September 17, 2012

Start Your Day Right

"How you start your day is how you live your day."
"How you live your day is how you live your life."
Food for thought!

-Louise Hay
Founder of Hay House Publications

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

What Are You Doing The Rest of Your Life?

In the poem "Summer Day", Mary Oliver asks you:
"what is it you plan to do with your
one wild and precious life?"
What is your answer?

Sunday, September 2, 2012

Love Springs Eternal

Those we love and lose are always connected by heartstrings into infinity. ~Terri Guillemets

Friday, August 24, 2012

Show A Little Kindness

 
Right from the moment of our birth, we are under the care and kindness of our parents, and then later on in our life when we are oppressed by sickness and become old, we are again dependent on the kindness of others. Since at the beginning and end of our lives we are so dependent on others' kindness, how can it be in the middle that we would neglect kindness towards others?
 
Tenzin Gyatso14th Dalai Lama

Borrowed Time

Debtors

They used to say we're living on borrowed
time but even when young I wondered
who loaned it to us? In 1948 one grandpa
died stretched tight in a misty oxygen tent,
his four sons gathered, his papery hand
grasping mine. Only a week before, we were fishing.
Now the four sons have all run out of borrowed time
while I'm alive wondering whom I owe
for this indisputable gift of existence.
Of course time is running out. It always
has been a creek heading east, the freight
of water with its surprising heaviness
following the slant of the land, its destiny.
What is lovelier than a creek or riverine thicket?
Say it is an unknown benefactor who gave us
birds and Mozart, the mystery of trees and water
and all living things borrowing time.
Would I still love the creek if I lasted forever?
"Debtors" by Jim Harrison, from Songs of Unreason. © Copper Canyon Press, 2011. Reprinted with permission.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

2 Dead Sparrows in 2 Days at My House

Yesterday I found a dead sparrow on my basement landing.  I was grossed out and so sad about this poor little bird's demise.  No doubt brought in by one of my cats.  Then, this morning, I discovered a second dead sparrow right on my front walk leading to the front door.  My heart sank.

So, I looked up meanings for dead sparrows and found that it could mean
someone close to my died recently which is true---my friend, Helen, just passed away too soon at age 61 of stomach cancer.  I am bereft.

Here's what else I found:

Some keywords/symbolic Sparrow meaning s include:
  • Joy
  • Inclusion
  • Creativity
  • Simplicity
  • Protection
  • Community
  • Productivity
  • Friendliness


Sparrows derive power and protection from their numbers. Always in a clan, they move in clusters, eat in clusters, and are always content as such. This can be quite intimidating to some would-be predators. Safety in numbers is a lesson the Sparrow has to share with us.
The Sparrow is ever vigilant in her goals. She is always bustling for her food, foraging for her nests, and gathering for her young. Fastidious and productive, the Sparrow is a reminder that idle hands (and idle minds) should be avoided in order to live a full, healthy life.
She is a master of flight, and camouflage, and as such the Sparrow teaches us to use our creativity to get around in life - think outside the box, and be creative in solving our problems.
As an bird totem, the Sparrow speaks of higher thoughts and ideals. She beckons us to keep our burdens as light as we can in order to avoid a heavy heart.
In closing, I can’t wrap up this brief piece on the Sparrow meaning without making mention of the traditional hymn “His Eyes are on the Sparrow.” The tune always runs through my head when I ponder the Sparrow and all her gifts. Here is a paraphrase of the song:
“Why should I feel discouraged? Why should the shadows come? Why should my heart be lonely When I know with Source I am One? I sing because I'm happy, I sing because I'm free, The Eye of Source is on the Sparrow, I know Source watches over me.”

No matter what your spiritual affiliation, this hymn offers a fitting partnership to the symbolism of the Sparrow. The core message reminds us that there is safe-keeping, bounty and beauty for even the tiniest of creations. Ergo, there is ample supply of spiritual abundance for us too.

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Sharing is Caring

Half the pleasure of solitude comes from having with us

some friend to whom we can say how sweet solitude is.

William Jay

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Thoughts About Helen

Good Morning, B,
 
Just a few more thoughts about the healing circle. . .
 
As I mentioned in my phone message, there were
about 15 folks there including Laz, whom I sat next to.
People were crying, on and off, including Laz.  It was
both joyful and sad.  Sometimes we laughed, other times
we cried.  Everyone shared memories of Helen. 
 
Laz told what it was like the last week of life for her.
She'd had stomach pains for about 2 weeks and went to
the doctor for blood tests.  The Tuesday before she died,
they were in bed at 10:30 PM when the phone rang.  It was
her doctor (what Dr. calls someone at 10:30 PM, I thought?)
saying her blood tests showed elevated levels and that they
should go to the ER immediately.  So, they did.
 
It was all downhill from there.  (Figures).  She couldn't
eat, grew weaker and, by Sunday, she slipped into a coma
and died.  (Ma almost did, too!)  Laz said he saw her on
Saturday and told her she was dying.  He said she lost so
much weight (of course, she wasn't eating, and they obviously
weren't feeding her intraveiniously) 
 
He said she told him to never give up and wouldn't agree
with him that she was going.  It sounds like the hospital
just "let her go".  Laz said they were giving her pain killers
(but no food) that's the drill, it seems, in hospitals.  Not good.
 
Laz said they met at the University of Rochester.  Wonder if
they're both from NY?  She was 61 (going on 62 in Oct) and
he's a year older.  She was Phi Beta Kappa at college and very
creative---could play the flute, taught herself Spanish in her 50's,
made pottery, sewed her wedding gown and his vest to match,
loved animals, always took ants or bees or flies out rather than
smack them, and had a variety of friends.  Very kind-hearted,
warm, gracious and tenacious woman.  That was Helen.
 
She will be deeply missed.
 
Luv,